What Does She Look Like?

Proverbs 31:10- Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price ] is[ far above rubies.]

Proverbs 31:11- The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.]

This virtuous woman must be looked for and when someone is looking for something in particular they must know what it looks like.

 Virtuous ➡ Morally good; acting in conformity to the moral law; practicing the moral duties, and abstaining from vice;

1. A virtuous woman a woman abstaining from vice. There is no need to look for this woman in the pool hall, bar, night club or hanging around the street corner for you'll not find this type of woman in any of these places.

2. A invaluable woman her price is far above rubies no quantity

of precious stones can be equal to her worth.

3. She is an unspotted woman The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her

This is the kind of wife every man wants, but I'm afraid that too many young men are looking not only in the wrong places but aren't really sure where this type of lady maybe found.

 Where may one find this type of woman? On one of the Internet sights that’s so popular? Don't think so, you might end up with a so called French model (bonjour). How about Church? Oh, without doubt that’s a good place to start looking. The key word is look but you better know what see looks like for there are many that have creep in unaware.

Proverbs 31:30- Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised. Maybe if you are looking, this verse will give you good direction. It’s not favour or beauty that you’re looking for but its fear and praise. 

Desires

Desire Webster says it means ➡ An emotion or excitement of the mind, directed to the attainment or possession of an object from which pleasure, sensual, intellectual or spiritual, is expected; a passion excited by the love of an object, or uneasiness at the want of it, and directed to its attainment or possession.⬅

Desire is an emotion or excitement of the mind of an object from which pleasure is expected. What is it that you and I desire? Is it wealth? Longer life? What is it that excites you and I? In Psalms chapter 37 we read the word "delight" ➡ A high degree of pleasure, or satisfaction of mind; joy.⬅

Psalms 37:4    Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Have a high degree of pleasure and satisfaction of mind in the Lord and The Lord shall give thee the desires of your heart.

Psalms 51:6- Behold, thou desirest truth in the inward parts: and in the hidden part thou shalt make me to know wisdom.

That's it God "DESIRES" truth in our inward parts and deep down inside you and I He will teach us wisdom. So why not;

Psalms 37:5    Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass. Yes, it's that desire for The Lord that will bring commitment to The Lord which will produce a high degree of pleasure; the end results "he shall give thee the desires of thine heart."

Control

Ever heard the phrase " I just couldn't control myself?" I'm sure we have all heard that, but what was the reason behind the no control? There are a lot of things we have no control over. We have no Control over the weather, other people, what time a business opens or closes, the attitude of those around us. As the batter comes to the plate he has no control over what ball will be pitched to him. His job is to hit the pitched that has been thrown to him or let it go by. The batters ultimate goal is to get on base. For if he never gets to first base he can never score a run. In Proverbs chapter 25 and in verse 28 we read these words; "He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls." A person that has no self control is like a city that has no walls for its protection. With no walls for protection the enemy comes in and takes control. We must protect ourselves against;

What ANGERS us ➡ Proverbs 14:17 He that is soon angry dealeth foolishly: and a man of wicked devices is hated.⬅

Our way of dealing with those who are angered at us;

➡ With Our Tongue- Proverbs 15:1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

➡ With Our Timing- Proverbs 15:18 A wrathful man stirreth up strife: but he that is slow to anger appeaseth strife.

➡ With Our Treatment- Proverbs 16:32 He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.

We see our tongue speaks kindly, our speaking comes slowly and the way we treat those who are angered at us better. It's learning to use self control, careful with our word, slow in our speaking while treating others better than they deserve.

➡ Philippians 2:3 Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.

It's Impossible

The first word that jumped out at me was the word "WISDOM."

Proverbs 24:3 Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established: It is impossible to build a house without wisdom in the house building industry and with wisdom comes understanding. No one in their right mind would hire a builder to build their home without knowing something about their knowledge in building.  Just as we would not call a plumber to do some work on our teeth? Neither would we except the counsel from the short order cook at our favourite restaurant about problems we are having in our marriage. But I am afraid that to many times we take the word of those who know little or nothing about wisdom from the Bible. Ever heard this "the Bible says that when the end is near we will not be able to tell one season from another?" But what does the Bible really say?

Genesis 8:22 While the earth remaineth, seedtime and harvest, and cold and heat, and summer and winter, and day and night shall not cease.

The first time we read the word "WISDOM" in the book of proverbs is in;

Proverbs 1:2 To know wisdom and instruction; to perceive the words of understanding; did you catch the words "TO KNOW"

Proverbs 1:5 A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels:

A wise person hears before they speak and by doing so they increase in their ability of learning and understanding. One who talks all the time very seldom can do what they have been told to do correctly. Reason being is the lack of hearing ability. The next time you want good solid advice go to the right person; need advice about the way your car is acting don't go to your medical Doctor. 

Appetite

Proverbs 23:2 And put a knife to thy throat, if thou be a man given to appetite.

Appetite ➡ The natural desire of pleasure or good; the desire of gratification, either of the body or of the mind. Appetites are natural or artificial. Hunger and thirst are natural appetites; the appetites for olives, tobacco, snuff, &c. are artificial.⬅

This appetite here is watching what one says or talks about while eating at the table. But we see there are natural appetites and there are artificial appetites as over indulging in alcohol.

Proverbs 23:29 Who hath woe? who hath sorrow? who hath contentions? who hath babbling? who hath wounds without cause? who hath redness of eyes?

Here we see one who not only talks to much but they also have woe,sorrow, contention, babbling, wounds, redness of eyes.

Woe ➡ results ⬅

Contention ➡ Strife; struggle; a violent effort to obtain something, or to resist a person, claim or injury; contest; quarrel⬅

Babbling ➡ foolish talk, telling secrets⬅

What's the cause of sorrow, struggling, foolish talking, wounds with redness of the eyes

Proverbs 23:30 They that tarry long at the wine; they that go to seek mixed wine.

Tarry ➡ To stay; to abide; to continue; to lodge.⬅

The person that stayed to long at the bar which set off a fire within then that caused them to desire more. One drink is to many and a 1000 is not enough once you start. Don't be given over to a wrongful and weak appetite.

Wherever you are, be all there." Jim Elliot 

Freedom

Proverbs 22:4 By humility and the fear of the Lord are riches, and honour, and life.

Humility ➡ freedom from pride and arrogance; humbleness of mind; a modest estimate of one's own worth. In theology, humility consists in lowliness of mind; a deep sense of one's own unworthiness in the sight of God, self-abasement, penitence for sin, and submission to the divine will.⬅

Fear ➡ A painful emotion or passion excited by an expectation of evil, or the apprehension of impending danger. Fear is the passion of our nature which excites us to provide for our security, on the approach of evil.⬅

By freedom from pride and the passion of our nature which excites us to provide for up our security on the approaching of evil. By these two there comes;

#1➡ RICHES: Riches are not always money

Matthew 6:21 For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.

Matthew 12:35 A good man out of the good treasure of the heart bringeth forth good things: and an evil man out of the evil treasure bringeth forth evil things.

Matthew 19:21 Jesus said unto him, If thou wilt be perfect, go and sell that thou hast, and give to the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven: and come and follow me.

 What's going on in our heart, what do you really want, desire?

#2➡ HONOR: The esteem due or paid to worth; high estimation.

Matthew 13:57 And they were offended in him. But Jesus said unto them, A prophet is not without honour, save in his own country, and in his own house.

Your family and friends may not think you're worth much honor but as you see they are not the ones giving honor.

#3➡ LIFE: That word "life" is mention in the book of Matthew 24 times, in the book of Mark 14 times, in the book of Luke 28 times but in the book of John it is uses 76 times. That is interesting, here are a few times it's used.

John 1:4 In him was life; and the life was the light of men.

John 3:15 That whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have eternal life.

John 3:36 He that believeth on the Son hath everlasting life: and he that believeth not the Son shall not see life; but the wrath of God abideth on him.

John 6:48 I am that bread of life.

 I can see where real life is; Jesus!

No Quarreling

Proverbs 17:14 The beginning of strife is as when one letteth out water: therefore leave off contention, before it be meddled with.

Strife➡ Contention in anger or enmity; contest; struggle for victory; quarrel or war.

Contention➡ Strife; struggle; a violent effort to obtain something, or to resist a person, claim or injury; contest; quarrel.

The beginning of anger, struggle, and quarrel as when one lets out water: therefore leave off the effort to obtain something before it gets to the point of not yielding to reason.

When I was a child and up until the time I went into the Military we had horses. The pasture where we kept our horses had a fairly good size creek running through it. On both ends of that creek where it entered the pasture something had to be done to keep the horses from leaving by way of the creek bed. So gates were built. Now these gates were built high enough to let the water run under them and high enough for when the creek rose but still low enough to keep the horses pastured. If a rain came and the water rose too high too fast then the swing of the gates were comprised and the gates would be endangered of being destroyed. If we knew of the oncoming storm then we could raise the gates for the oncoming water therefore save ourselves the trouble of rebuilding.

Could this be what we're being taught here? It's better not to start a quarrel but to stop it before it becomes an argument and gets out of control. This will save us from having to rebuild the relationship.  We're not always right and sometimes when we are does it make the difference of destroying a relationship? Choose your battles!