Spanking or Beating

Have you ever read in the book of Proverbs these verses
Proverbs 13: 24 He that spareth (withholds) his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth (disciplines) him betimes. (diligently)
Proverbs 22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive (remove) it far from him.
Proverbs 29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself (gets his own way) bringeth his mother to shame. I think that these were some of my Dad’s favorite verses and he used them regularly on his three sons. Today they tell us that this kind of discipline is out of date and should no longer be used. I am glad my Dad used his belt, rod, switch or anything else he could get his hands on at the time for if he had not I might be in a prison cell somewhere today. Ok Solomon you didn’t know what you were talking about. Have you ever been to PTA meeting and a Mom brags about their child? Did it sound like this “Yeah, my Suzy dropped out of tenth grade this year and is working two jobs to support her drug habit. We’re so proud of her.” Or, “Our son refused our help and our advice. He has since left home and lives at the Rescue Mission. He panhandles in the parking lot of the mall and at the corner of a nearby highway. We’re so thrilled at what he’s doing with his life.”
Read it again
Proverbs 29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom: Spanking a child teaches them to hit other children. NO, they already know how to hit other children whether we spank them or not. Out of all the spankings I received I can never remember once challenging a kid to a spanking. I never said, “Hey, meet me after school because I am going to give you a spanking. That never crossed my mind and when we met it wasn’t with a belt or switch. Oh no, we used our bare hands and the blood flew, mostly mine. You may have struggled with these Proverbs because you came from a home where discipline was nothing more than physical abuse; where hate and anger spilled over and spankings became beatings. There is a vast difference between a beating and a spanking. My Dad never abused his privileges to discipline and the spankings never became beatings. Does misbehavior reflect a child or even an adult’s heart?
Matthew 12:34 O generation of vipers, how can ye, being evil, speak good things? for out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaketh. Too often we get so sidetracked with behavior and think that if we can just get them to stop misbehaving we will have succeeded. A change in behavior doesn’t necessarily stem from a change in heart. The problem is in the heart and it causes the behavior.
Proverbs 22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; "Remember that children are born with a decided bias toward evil, and therefore if you let them choose for themselves, they are certain to choose wrong. The mother cannot tell what her tender infant may grow up to be—tall or short, weak or strong, wise or foolish—all is uncertain. There is one thing the mother can say with certainty—he will have a corrupt and sinful heart! It is natural for us to do wrong. Our hearts are like the earth on which we tread—let it alone, and it is sure to bear weeds!" (J. C. Ryle)
Psalms 51:5 Behold, I was shapen in iniquity; and in sin did my mother conceive me.
Use wisdom not anger. When that person flies off the handle today in anger at you just remember it is an outward expression of what is going on in their heart. Be careful how you respond.
Proverbs 15:1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
Proverbs 15:2 The tongue of the wise useth knowledge aright: but the mouth of fools poureth out foolishness.